Why so mad bro? Like, for real, have you asked yourself why are you so frustrated when it happens? Is it really the other side that’s so wrong? Or is the emotion hiding a deep secret inside you, protecting your ego, the uncomfortable truth that you’re not perfect and they are right? My thoughts after fighting the feelings for years, winning several times, and losing hundreds of times.
Frustration, irritation, anger are mental viruses. Attacking your mind when it’s weak. Spawning endless thoughts and sucking your energy when not opposed until all you see is darkness and hostility. Their only value is to expose your weak spots, after which you need to plan corrective actions and fight off the negative thoughts.
Have you noted that the thoughts, courtesy of your ego, are always hypotheses? Assumptions of reasons behind actions, predictions, one-sided pre-play of engagements. Never backed by facts. If you tell them out loud to an observer, they will conclude you’re mad.
“Here we go again, I made a bad impression and now I’m in the black list. Now every interaction will be stained. Good luck fixing this. How come he highlights my sentiments after he shows the same. There’s a reason I approach it that way, past situations played exactly like this. Now I need to wait for the inevitable call from my manager after they get the complaint. I’ll stop presenting my reasoning as it’s not a safe environment. When this gets escalated I’ll ask again for the examples. I’ll ask what was the impact of them. Because there was none, they were not given in front of external people. So this will backfire to them.”
You can stop the thoughts and as result the emotions if you question them. If you acknowledge they are not right and why.
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Manager is not supporting you. You grow frustrated and it leaks into interactions. Do your feelings make the situation better or worse? What instead can you do in the time you day dream how you oppose the manager?
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You got feedback for improvement, but the person giving it is not perfect either. Thoughts and ego focus on their flaws ignoring the truth given to you. Can these feelings change the other person? Or you can instead focus on the truth handed to you, humble yourself, and improve?
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You were treated unfairly. The company let you go with false reason. Does the reason matter? Can you do something to change the fact? Do the negative emotions help you take better action? Where should your focus be?
“Why am I frustrated?” Keep asking until you find what you can improve for next time, or until you determine nothing can be done. That will win you half the battle, and sometimes be enough to remove the emotions. For the other half you have to actively ignore the thoughts, or push back with reasons why the other side is right.